Regulate & Reboot: Affirming Tools for Managing Crisis and Sensory Overload



Are you tired of being told to just "tolerate" a world that wasn't built for your nervous system? Traditional approaches often teach us to quietly endure distress, masking our natural responses to overstimulation and systemic friction. It’s time for a radical reframe.

Regulate & Reboot is a revolutionary, 6-week course designed explicitly for neurodivergent students (including Autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, BPD, OCD, and other neuroqueer learners). This program turns traditional crisis-survival concepts into a toolkit for somatic safety, environmental autonomy, and self-advocacy. We don't teach compliance or hiding your distress; we focus on honouring your body, reclaiming your space, and navigating overwhelm on your own terms.


We will adapt DBT skills with other somatic and neurodivergent-friendly approaches to build our toolkits together. 

This group course is for you if you:

  • Are exhausted by traditional "coping mechanisms" that feel like instructions on how to hide your distress or blend in, rather than how to actually feel safe in your own body. 
  • Want to design a custom "Personal Reboot Protocol" built entirely around your specific nervous system, rather than trying to fit yourself into a rigid, one-size-fits-all checklist.
  • Find it difficult to set boundaries or say "no" when spaces become too taxing, and wants concrete scripts to cleanly exit overwhelming situations.
  • Are Is looking for a low-demand, accessible learning space where you can show up exactly as you are—camera-optional, chat-friendly, and completely free from the pressure to mask.
  • Want to learn with a wonderful group of neuroqueers and other cultural renegades
  • You're willing to try out new ideas!

This group course is NOT for you if you're looking for:

  • A traditional, compliance-focused behaviour program designed to eliminate stimming, masking, or natural neurodivergent expressions of distress.
  • Standard, out-of-the-box DBT training that requires rigid adherence to textbook definitions of "distress tolerance" without room for systemic or sensory critique.
  • A cure or "fix" for your neurodivergence—this space is entirely neurodiversity-affirming and views your traits as a natural variation, not pathology.
  • A highly formal, high-demand academic lecture with rigid participation rules, forced on-camera interaction, or mandatory spoken sharing.
  • A replacement for acute crisis medical care or intensive 1-on-1 psychiatric therapy.
"I was really surprised to feel more comfortable than I have in any kind of therapy setting I’ve ever been in. I’ve been able to be really open and bring my full self to the skills group and I feel really very grateful for that."
Gray

Who we are at Love Uncommon


Love Uncommon was founded by Sophia Graham who is a sex and relationship geek trained in counselling, DBT & teaching. Sophia works with other coaches and therapists to provide courses on emotion regulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness and self consent.

We work with quirky queers and cultural renegades  including sex workers, performers, kinksters, neuroqueers, and people across the gender, sexual and relationship diversity spectrum. That means our clients are cis and trans; women, men and non-binary folks; people that are monogamous and non-monogamous; autistic and allistic; sexual and asexual, disabled and non-disabled.


This is what we will be covering!



Module 1: Decoupling Compliance from Calm (21st October)

Stop blaming your nervous system for hurting in a world that wasn't built for it. In this foundational module, we dismantle the traditional compliance models that tell you to quietly endure distress and mask your natural responses. You will explore the revolutionary concept of the Window of Capacity and map out your personal battery levels. Learn to validate your hyper-arousal and hypo-arousal states—understanding exactly why meltdowns and shutdowns are protective biological responses, not behavioural failures. It's time to shift from hiding your distress to reclaiming your absolute right to bodily safety.

Module 2: Somatic System Resets (Re-engineering TIPP) (28th October)

Traditional crisis survival skills often rely on sudden physical shocks, like plunging your face into ice-cold water or forcing your body into frantic exercise. For sensitive nervous systems, these approaches can trigger acute threat loops or sensory trauma instead of calming you down. This module re-engineers the underlying science of physiological regulation into gentle, neurodivergent-affirming Biomarker Resets. You will discover how to work with your biology through thermal tuning, low-demand autonomic breathing that ignores rigid counting, and soothing sensory compression that helps your brain feel instantly anchored.

Module 3: Sensory Sanctuary & The Portable Toolkit (4th November)

Your sensory inputs are not a temporary distraction from your feelings—they are the very foundation of your emotional stability. We throw out generic neurotypical "self-soothing" to celebrate your right to sensory joy. In this module, you will map out your preferences across an expanded six-channel sensory inventory. Then, you will engineer a personalised Portable Sensory Toolkit designed to travel with you anywhere. Learn to balance input mitigators that block environmental drains with active sensory joy anchors that keep your daily battery charged.

Module 4: Cognitive Containment & Hyperfocus Shields (18th November)

If your attention style naturally hyper-fixates or shifts rapidly, trying to distract yourself from an emotional storm with a boring household chore feels intensely frustrating. Your brain will naturally "grab" onto distress unless your alternative choice can actively compete with the chaos. In this module, you stop fighting your attention patterns and start leveraging your natural capacity for Hyperfocus and Special Interests as profound, protective shields. You will map out low-demand passive comfort worlds and high-reward active projects, and learn to build a low-friction bridge to bypass executive task resistance.

Module 5: Reclaiming Your "No" & Situational Agency (25th November)

True emotional regulation isn't about forcing yourself to "breathe through" or mentally tolerate an environment that actively violates your boundaries. This module shifts you away from cognitive compliance and into Situational Agency—giving you explicit permission to say "no" and walk away from spaces that hurt. You will dismantle the toxic internal script of "shoulds" and build your own automated Egress Protocol. Master your personal somatic cues to leave, pre-write low-friction scripts to exit spaces cleanly without over-explaining, and practice a simple request formula to secure structural accommodations with confidence.

Module 6: System Integration & The Personal Playbook (2nd December)

Say goodbye to standard checklists and standardised clinical symptom trackers that only create executive stress and shame. In our final module, you consolidate all your insights, values, and customised biological levers into a comprehensive, living Personal Playbook built entirely by you, for you. You will finalise your master reboot map and explore the life-changing world of Low-Demand Community Coregulation. Discover how to use Parallel Tuning to share safe, completely unmasked spaces with trusted peers under zero social pressure. Leave the course with a clear user manual for your own autonomy.
Addressing financial barriers

This is a pay-what-you-can class. We all need to be paid for the work that we do, but late-stage capitalism sucks.  I want this class to be accessible to as many people as possible, so rather than using discount codes and equity pricing, I've chosen a 'pay what you can' approach. In the past, the ​course was priced at $400, with ​up to 70% off for some folks. Now ​it's up to you to decide what you are able to afford. 


Join us!

Pay what you can

    • 90-minute interactive lessons on Zoom every week starting 21st October 2026 and 6 pm UK/EIRE and 1 pm Eastern
    • Videos, podcasts, handouts and worksheets to support your learning.
    • A community to learn alongside
    • Access to all the videos, handouts and lessons until January 20027

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“The skills classes gave me a lot of useable tools and skills with an emphasis on progressive learning and adapting things to different situations I was in to meet my needs.”
Robin